Apparently All Girls Who Are Good In Bed Do These 5 Things
Having sex is hard.
Like, not the actual act but everything that goes along with it: lighting candles, experimenting with food, trying to make putting on a condom look sexy (always practice safe sex kids).
But according to expert opinion, the things that make you good in bed don't actually have anything to do with lacy lingerie or mood lighting; Tracy Cox has revealed the traits women who know how to get down share and it makes a lot of sense.
5. You like to mix things up
"I get hundreds of emails on this topic," Tracy says. "'Why won't she... watch porn with me/ let me shave off her pubes/ leave her shoes on/ watch in a mirror/ masturbate for me/ go out without underwear on?'
"What he's basically saying in all of these requests is give me something I'm not used to seeing or doing."
It's pretty logical stuff. It doesn't matter how much you love Friends, if you watch the same three episodes over and over again, you're going to get bored - fast.
Variety is the spice of live, so make things spicy.
4. You're kind to his peen
Again, didn't think this one needed explaining but Tracy is the sexpert.
"It's not just size men worry about, it's how hard it is, how long it stays hard and how it looks," she explains.
If you're keen to nail it when you're, um, nailing him, Tracy suggests laying it on thick with the compliments and paying his penis some extra attention.
3. You're vocal when it matters
Let's flip this one around, shall we?
If you were giving someone oral sex, for example, and they just lay there making no noise you'd be pretty put off. You'd have no idea if they were enjoying it, if you were doing the right thing, if they were even still awake.
Same goes for you. "We rely on moans and groans are feedback that our partners are having a good time," Tracy points out.
That doesn't mean you have to lift the roof off, though.
"Somewhere in between does just nicely," she adds.
2. you know how to give feedback
Fact: No-one likes being told that they're shit at something. Tracy reckons women who can give tactful feedback are automatically better in bed because they're guiding, rather than controlling.
"Deliver instructions with compliments loaded on top," she recommends. "[Say] 'God that feels fantastic' before you put your hand over his to show him how you really want it done."
1. You suggest the sexy times
So we're guessing that pretty much any person who has ever been in a long-term relationship is nodding at this one.
Tracy reckons that, in all her years of research, "she doesn't initiate sex" is the top male complaint.
Which, in a way, is great news for women everywhere; all you have to do is raise your eyebrow and nod at the bedroom door.
Congratulations, you're now a cracker in bed.